I have never blogged before and I am not exactly sure where to start, so I decided to start with an explanation and discussion of my current tagline—“sexual health from the head to the bed”.
Several people have asked about my tagline and I think the importance of the concept begins with the fact that the body’s biggest sex organ lies right between our ears. Yes, it is the brain! What’s going on in your head matters, A LOT! Our thoughts play a major role in influencing our desire, pleasure, and satisfaction.
Have any of you ever found yourself thinking about what you have to do later in the day, an item you forgot at the grocery store, or even something related to work, while you are engaging in sexual activity with your partner? Have you ever found yourself distracted by thoughts about not doing something the right way or your body not being perfect enough (what is often called “spectatoring”) while engaging in sexual activity? If you have done any of the things previously mentioned, I promise you are NOT alone! But here’s the problem…If you are focused on other things or distracted by self-criticism, you are not in the moment and are definitely not thinking SEXY THOUGHTS!! It is very difficult to enjoy sexual activity if you are not present mentally and are not focused on your partners body, the sensations going on in your body, or sexiness in general!
So that is the beginning of what is meant by sexual health from (meaning starts from) the head. ..And ‘to the bed? Well, maybe I should say to the bed, couch, kitchen counter, back seat, porch, woods, hallway…Or perhaps I should simply say ‘to the bed”…